There is absolutely no need to look a wide-eyed high school grad in the eye ask them about their dreams and stomp those dreams into the ground before they even finish telling you about them. None. Ever.
YES money is important to a degree. You need money for rent, food and the other necessities of life. What you don’t need is to waste your life chasing money. If you want to get married and have ten kids go ahead! If you love to draw, build up a portfolio and have an open house. Don’t quite your day job, but try. Figure out a way. If you are good and not squeamish, try tattooing or art restoration at a museum. If you like photography give it a shot learn what you can master the craft.
If you have an amazing story to tell, sit your butt down and tell it. If no one wants to represent your master piece publish it yourself! That’s an option now! Just do it. Figure out what makes you happy and just get out there and do it. If you have a dream DO NOT let anyone and I mean anyone stop you. Like I said, don’t quit your day job, you do need to survive to make your dreams come true but don’t let that define you or hold you back. I grew up with miserable parents working themselves to the bone trying to make ends meet. My mother used to write these amazing children’s stories about a frog and I loved them. What happened to those? Life. My father is one of the most creative and talented individuals I have ever met. You want it he can figure out how to make if he hasn’t already, but he doesn’t have much time for what he loves.
My mom is going to nursing school and I hope that makes her happy. She seems to always be chasing happiness.
A lot of people thought I could make it in the fields that I found interesting and as a result I began to think I couldn’t do anything if there wasn’t a huge pay out at the end. So I sat on my butt for a year until I got pregnant and then looking at this beautiful baby I thought, “I cannot let him think like that. He can do anything. It’s my job as a parent to show him its true.”
And to all you nay sayers out there, I ask you this: Do you think Brad Pitt’s parents thought he was going have the success he has had? How about your favorite author? What about those chef’s both on TV and in the big restaurants?
No not everyone will make it and certainly not on their first try but that is no reason to think they never will. I also know that a lot of people who love the aforementioned high school grad feel that they are some how protecting their loved one by saying these things. Because it is from love I will try to go easier on you. You might have just crushed their little blooming spirit. It takes a lot to revive a crushed spirit. Most of them are completely lost. Give encouragement and remind them about the importance of a day job.
I also understand people wanting their children to move out at some point in their adult lives. Again the day job comes to mind.
If my book is a complete flop, and I sincerely hope it is not, but if it is, I will try again and again. I will be a little bit disappointed but honestly I like to hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Give them that advice. Day job and hope for the best prepare for the worst. The two best pieces of advice I have ever received.
So to all the high school grads out there. Remember that your parents and grandparents and aunts and uncles love you. Remember if you have a dream to include your plan for a day job in how you go about achieving it and don’t let anyone discourage you. Find a way and most importantly be happy.